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Custody cases are difficult issues. The kids suffer the most. Divorces tend to get ugly placing the children in the middle of everything. It is best to keep the kids out of the drama as much as possible, they have enough to deal with. (The two people they love most in the world don't want to be around each other anymore, and the child tends to feel responsible) It is best not to ask the child questions about your spouse. It places them in the middle and that is the last place they want to be. If your child is having issues they need to discuss with you, be open and let them feel that they are in control of the conversation. If they feel you are in control, they will feel as if they are betraying their other parent by discussing it. That doesn't mean you can't get the answers you are looking for, you just need to be careful about how you obtain them. By doing this, the child will see the other parent talking bad about you, and notice how you don't say anything bad about the other parent. Without knowing it your child will creat a stronger bond with you and resent your spouse for the things they say about you. If at all possible try to keep your children as much out of the Child Custody as possible. |
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